In Loving Memory of Timothy Carter

January 03, 1952
Decatur, IL
July 07, 2020
Trumbull, CT
Funeral Home

Spear-Miller Funeral Home

39 South Benson Road,
Fairfield CT US 06824


Wednesday 4-7 p.m.

39 South Benson Road,
CT 06824

July 15, 2020


A private service will be held at 7:30 pm and can be viewed via Zoom.

Zoom Meeting ID: 824 0697 3787

Zoom Meeting Password: 511729


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Timothy J. Carter

Timothy J. Carter passed away peacefully on Tuesday July 7, 2020 at age 68 at his home in Trumbull, CT. He was born to two loving parents, Thomas Harvey Carter and Elizabeth Ernestine Carter in Decatur, IL. Tim began a career in commercial banking after he moved to Kansas City, MO. Sadly, in 1980 at the age of 28, Tim suffered a spinal cord injury due to a diving accident that left him a quadriplegic. In 2002, Tim moved across the country to Connecticut to be closer to his kids and began living with his daughter in Trumbull. After Tim’s life changing accident, he was fortunate enough to regain his driver's license which gave him freedom to travel on the East Coast. Tim enjoyed spending time at the South Benson Boat Marina in Fairfield and cruising around the neighborhood on hot days. Tim loved watching sports, especially his beloved Kansas City Chiefs and Kansas City Royals. It was his favorite time of year when he got to do his fantasy football. He was a collector of baseball cards, pocket watches, and Indian arrowheads. The way he continued to laugh, smile, and enjoy life was an inspiration to everyone. He will be dearly missed by his two beloved children, Ami R. Neville, her husband Jeff and their daughter Ava (Squirt) of Trumbull and Todd J. Carter, his wife Abbie and their son Theo (Little Buddy) of Milford. He will also be missed by his sister, Carole Hill and her husband Thomas of Decatur, IL; a niece Tiffany Hill of London, UK; a nephew Trey Hill of Decatur, IL; an aunt Dorothy Gillette of Oregon and an uncle Russell Carter of Arizona. The family would like to thank all of Tim’s physicians, and especially his nurses, who cared for him over the years. The family is welcoming friends Wednesday, July 15, 2020 from 4-7 p.m. in the Spear-Miller Funeral Home. Social distancing and facemasks will be required for those attending. A private service will conclude the visitation which could be watched over a zoom call at 7:30 p.m. For information for the zoom call or to offer an online condolence please visit

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27 Guestbook Entries for Timothy J. Carter

  1. Tim was the nicest, most upbeat and positive person. I enjoyed working with him & always looked forward to our visits. He had a great smile and optimistic outlook that I’ll never forget. I’m grateful to have known him.

  2. We are so sorry to hear about the passing of your Dad – you have our sympathy -‘. Dolores & Bill Krug

  3. Rest In Peace, Mr. Tim. We will always remember the many conversations we had on your trips around the neighborhood in Lee’s Summit, Mo. Our condolences to Ami and Todd and their families.

  4. I’m heartbroken. Tim was the world to me. He was like a dad to me as ami and Todd are like siblings. So many great memories and I will miss him dearly.

  5. Our sincere condolences. I have many happy memories hanging out with Mr. Tim, Ami, and Todd in Lee’s Summit. Such a great person, thank you for all the fun times.

  6. Tim, in spite of his tragic accident, loved life. When I was going through a difficult time in my life, I would “cry on his shoulder” then feel guilty considering his situation. When I told him that, he assured me that my problems were just as important. Our kids grew up together in that cul-de-sac and remain close friends. My daughter, Sara, won a national Essay Contest in a “What’s in the News” broadcast which was written about a “special friend”, Tim Carter. My daughter, Angie lived with him and cared for him while working on her nursing degree. They have traveled to seemTim, Ami, and Todd several times throughout the years. To live forty years as a quadriplegic beat the odds. He was admired for his sense of humor and upbeat attitude, and he will be dearly missed by his friends and family. ❤️

  7. We were neighbors. Tim was a good friend to me and my family. When I was going through a difficult time, I would “cry on his shoulder” then feel guilty realizing what he had to deal with the rest of his life. But he assured me that my problems were real for me and should not apologize. My daughter, Sara, won a national Essay Contest and appeared on “What’s in the News” reading her essay about her “special friend”, Tim Carter. My other daughter, Angie, lived with him and cared for him while working on her nursing degree. My girls remained close with Tim, Ami and Todd and traveled there to visit them several times. He was loved. He was special. He is missed.

  8. We enjoyed our friendship with Tim in Lee’s Summit MO. He was always touring the neighborhood in his chair, often with his service dog following! He was happy, outgoing and a friend to many kids and adults! My daughter Caitlin had a special bond with Tim. We were sad to see him leave, but were happy he was around his family. Tim never met a stranger! We didn’t keep in touch, but our neighbor Ron would call me up to his house and I would get to visit with Tim on their calls! He lived life to the fullest-laughing and joking all the way! Our thoughts are with his family and we know he is telling stories about the day… glad he was around to see our Chiefs win the Super Bowl!!

  9. My deepest condolences to Ami, Todd and the family. Tim was a wonderful person with a kind heart and had a smile that lit up the room!
    It was an honor to have been able to care for him. He will always have a special place in my heart and I miss him dearly ❤️.

  10. I loved Tim like family and will miss him so much. I wish I could be there with you Ami, Todd, Jeff, & Ava.

  11. Anyone who ever knew Tim was blessed to have such a wonderful friend. So sorry for your loss. He truly will be missed, but will remain in our hearts forever.

  12. Dear Ami
    I am so sorry to hear the passing of your father. He must have been a very special individual who will be really missed. Our prayers go out to you and your family. Stay healthy and safe.

  13. I am so sorry for your loss. Mr. Carter was the most upbeat, outgoing individual I have ever met. Forever in my heart 🧡

  14. Ami,
    Your Dad was truly an inspiration. His perseverance is a shining example that will live on through anyone whose paths crossed his, especially when anyone meets the positive kindness that you and your daughter radiate. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  15. Dear Amie,
    I am so very sorry to hear of your dear father’s passing. He sounds like a remarkable man in every way and an incredible father. Sending warmest condolences and many prayers during this difficult time.
    Much Love,
    Cara Kilgallen

  16. I am so sorry for your loss. Your dad was a light to everyone and made everyone’s day. I wish you and your family happiness during this rough time. I am so grateful I got to meet him.

  17. Sad to read of my cousin’s passing. Knew he was wheelchair bound but glad to read he was still quite active.

  18. I was best friends with Todd and spent many days playing baseball, playing in the woods and riding bikes, etc. He was the best coach I ever had. I still talk about Tim and how positive and upbeat he was even though he was put in a tough situation given his medical needs. My condolences to everyone who knew Tim but especially Todd and Ami and their families. Love you guys. Albin Family in St. Louis

  19. Tim was my cousin. His mother, Ernestine & my father [Fred Edmonds] were 1st cousins. His grandmother, Anabel Carrol was a sister to my grandmother – Lucy Etta Edwards Edmonds. So glad he picked himself up & got on with life!

  20. I loved your dad so much and his positive outlook!! He was a great man and inspiration!!! Always loved his accent!!! I remember put his Cpap on and him wiggling it into position!!! And making sure his blanket was in proper place!!! Love you sleep easy my friend!!!💕💕💕💕

  21. Dear Tim’s Family,
    My name will not mean anything to you but when I read an old KC paper this morning, I was flooded with memories of what a special man Tim
    Carter was in every contact that I had with him. I was director of Patient Relations at Research Medical Center. I don’t recall if Tim was there after his initial injury but over the years (I was employed there 1978-2003) we had many good visits. So we would have known each other from early 1980’s until he moved back East. As noted on the obituary “The way he
    continued to laugh, smile, and enjoy life was an inspiration to everyone.” I am sorry I missed being aware before the zoom.
    But, I want you to know he touched my life. As a healthcare worker who met thousands (literally) of patients, Tim was a man who left a memorable stamp on me.
    This message is to let you know that after all these years, I can feel the pleasure of entering Tim’s hospital room and how much joy I experienced in our visits. It is WONDERFUL that he moved close to where his family surrounded him.
    Ami & Todd you were so blessed to be his children.
    Betty Gember

  22. Todd we were so saddened to learn of Tim’s passing. We’ve still, after all of this time, remembered him so fondly, and commented on how graciously he had seemingly accepted the hardships of his life after his accident. Always a smile and kind words for everyone, bringing joy wherever he went. I know you and Ami as well as everyone who was lucky enough to spend time with Tim, will feel his loss greatly. Just know that we are thinking of you and Abby ad your loved ones and share your sadness in grieving the loss of your Dad. We miss you, Todd, and hope to see you once again some time soon. You were always one of our very favorites.. Joe and Barb

  23. Tim worked with my husband, Jef, at the bank in Kansas City. We loved his sense of humor and kindness and remember fondly many occasions when we carried in and enjoyed dinner with him while he was in the Rehab Institute. Somehow, we lost touch with Tim but have thought of him often over the years. He was a fine man. Our prayers are with you.