In Loving Memory of Sally Kain Cohane

November 28, 1928
New York, NY
January 22, 2020
Fairfield, CT
Funeral Home

Spear-Miller Funeral Home

39 South Benson Road,
Fairfield CT US 06824


Friday, 5-8 p.m.

39 South Benson Road,
CT 06824

January 31, 2020


St. Thomas Aquinas Church

Mass of Christian Burial

1719 Post Road,
CT 06824

Saturday, February 1, 2020, 10:00 a.m.


St. Thomas Cemetery

Mill Plain Road,
CT 06824

February 01, 2020

Family Gathering


Mercy Learning Center

637 Park Avenue,
CT 06604

Sally Kain Cohane

On January 22, 2020, with her family at her side, Sally Kain Cohane passed away as peacefully and gently as she had lived for 91 years. We called her Saint Sally for so many many reasons. Suffice to say, six children-five boys and one girl (three born within 10 1/2 months of each other) a “sixth son”, Billy Levene, and a husband who for over 65 years regaled her pretty much daily of his glory days on the starting five of the Manhattan College basketball team, is a good start.

Our Mom was kind long before being kind was something we had to be reminded to be. She had a deeply compassionate heart and there was not a judgmental bone in her 5’3” frame. She was also the most selfless person and always preferred to have the spotlight shine on anyone but herself. Our father got all the applause for his magic tricks, but it was our Mother who was the Real Magic. While our father threw the balled-up handkerchief unseen over the heads of his subjects, she was the one who caught it and silently passed it to him as he then pretended to pull it out of someone’s ear or shirt collar. Our mother just stood in the background while our father was the one who got all the attention and accolades. Without exaggeration, she caught that handkerchief one thousand times and it wasn’t until about 850 that her eye rolling started.

While we knew our Mother didn’t like attention, we were not fully aware of how little she liked it until we almost killed her at their surprise 50th wedding anniversary party. As Mom stepped through the door at Harborview Market, she was overwhelmingly surprised with a room filled with her family and friends. As the band started playing “When Irish Eyes are Smiling” our Mother (who did we mention NEVER EVER complained) quietly said that she had a pain in her chest and that it was going down her arm. We thought that perhaps the years of her favorite splurge on pretzels and cream cheese had finally taken a toll on what had been until this moment her perfect health, but that was not the case. It was the sudden shock from all the attention that brought about her heart attack. As the ambulance was rushing her to the hospital the only thing she kept saying over and over was, “I’m so sorry I ruined the party.”

Our Mother’s purpose in life and what brought her absolute joy was simply spending time with her children, 13 grand children-Micaela, Conor, Kaitlin, Addie, Mackenzie, Finnegan, Callahan, Kiera, Carly, Courtney, Nolan, Maeve and Quinn and five great grandchildren-Maisie, McGinnis, Gavin, Henley and Dylan. She cherished every moment she was in the company of her family. We will forever miss laughing with her. She was our BEST audience and we all realized sadly that perhaps no one will ever think we are as funny as our Mother did.

To help our Mom make leaving us all easier, we reminded her of who she would be seeing in this next chapter-Her beloved Father, John Kain and her Mother, Marie Finnegan Kain, her two sisters, Jeanne McLoughlin and Delphine Goss whom she adored and we believe are laughing together at this moment, her brother, Jack Kain, her cousin/brother, Dan Capozzi, and her sister-in-law and brothers-in-law who were equally important to her.

Sally leaves behind her husband of 65 years, Gerry Cohane, her adoring children-her favorite (and only) daughter and very best friend, MaryKate Cohane, her five sons, Rod and his wife Terri, Jack and his wife, Stacey, Neal and his wife, Lisa, Greg and his husband, Bob and Brendan and his wife, Jaime. As well, she leaves behind so many nieces and nephews whom she loved so greatly.

When her Great Grandson, five year old McGinnis, “Mac” saw our Mother towards the end, he said that “it looks like, Grandma-Grandma is starting to go up into the sky to see God and someday when I get old I’ll go up in the sky, too, to see God and I’ll see Grandma-Grandma again. We believe that, Mac. We do believe that. You did good Mom and we’ll love you forever.

A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated Saturday, February 1, 2020 at 10:00 a.m. at St. Thomas Aquinas Church, 1719 Post Road, Fairfield. Interment will follow in St. Thomas Cemetery. Friends may greet the family Friday from 5-8 p.m. in the Spear-Miller Funeral Home, 39 South Benson Road, Fairfield. In lieu of flowers, contributions in Sally's memory may be made to Mercy learning Center, 637 Park Ave., Bridgeport, CT 06604

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11 Guestbook Entries for Sally Kain Cohane

  1. MK, I am sending you and your family my sincerest sympathy on the loss of your mom.
    Your mom was a beautiful person that I have very fond memories of ❤️
    May God and good memories always bring you comfort ❤️
    Your mom was blessed with you overseeing her care, as is your dad❤️
    Please give your wonderful dad a hug from me 😘

  2. I was so sorry to hear about Mrs. Cohane! She was one of the gracious, friendly, and dedicated moms who made growing up in Fairfield such a pleasure. I remember many Memorial Day parades and basketball games that were improved by her presence. My prayers go out to her loving family.

  3. Dear Mr. Cohane, Rod, Jack, MK, Neil , Greg and Brendan,
    I’m so deeply sorry for the loss of your wife and mom. I have so many happy memories of her. She was sweetness defined!
    God Bless you!
    I love you ❤️

  4. Cohane Family,
    Very sorry to hear of the passing of your Mom. I remember her as being a very kind, sincere woman. May God bless you during these difficult times and always keep those treasured memories in your heart. Prayers to all of you!

  5. I read this with tears in my eyes. What a beautiful tribute. I’m sending out a huge hug of love to each of you. See you all at the grand farewell.

  6. Oh my lovely Aunt. I always admired your relationship with my Mom(Jeanne). It was such an amazing example of love respect and deep caring. I know you were each other’s confidants sharing your troubles with each other I know brought you each so much comfort. The laughter well I hear it every time I’m with my sisters ( especially that 4 th sista MK) she shares so much of what is good about you and expresses it in the world. I hold you in my heart and I will listen for your whispers in the wind. Thank you for helping me become the person I am and loving me for me.

  7. Dear Jack, I am so sorry to ready of your mother’s passing. Her obituary attests to the fact that she was a great person who could hold her own in an enormous Irish family and love every minute of it. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

  8. Dearest Mary Kate,
    We wish to extend our heartfelt sympathy and prayers to you and your family for the loss of your beautiful, kind mother. I am very grateful to have spent time with her and looked into those beautiful, sincere eyes.
    Your mom was incredibly blessed to have you as her very best friend and loving daughter. May those years of beloved memories help bring you peace and strength in the days to come.
    We are so sorry to miss the celebration of her life. Please know we will be toasting her from afar and keeping you close in our heart.

    Much love,
    Diane & Pete 💕

    P.S. Beautifully written obituary ❤️

  9. I feel so fortunate to have known Sally and her family for most of my life. A Classy lady, caring, compassionate, dependable and deeply religious. She loved her family and friends and her door was always open. She loved to entertain and her smile lighted the room. I will miss you forever my dear friend. God be with you and your lovely family.💕💕

    Rena Fortuna and Family, Fairfield, CT