In Loving Memory of Mary Whitmer

April 29, 1934
Wilmington, Delaware
August 25, 2018
Fairfield, CT
Funeral Home

Spear-Miller Funeral Home

39 South Benson Road,
Fairfield CT US 06824


St. Timothy's Episcopal Church

Funeral Service

4670 Congress Street,
Fairfield CT

Saturday, September 22, 2018 11:00AM


Family Gathering


Operation Hope

636 Old Post Road,
Fairfield CT 06824

Mary Leigh Whitmer

Mary Leigh Pell Whitmer passed away peacefully on Friday, August 24th with her 3 sons by her side. Born in Wilmington, DE she was the daughter of Rev. Walden Pell II and Edith Minturn Bonsal Pell. She is survived by her sons Robert Foster Whitmer IV and his wife deLancey Funsten Whitmer, Walden Pell Whitmer, John Love Whitmer and grandchildren Jenna Michelle Whitmer and Garrett John Whitmer. She is also survived by her nieces Evie Burlinson, Abbie Spires, Lissa Thomson, Alison Helms and Sarah Stires. Her husband, Robert Foster Whitmer III predeceased her in 2015. Her sister, Melissa Pell Thomson predeceased her in 1992. Her brother, Stuyvesant Bonsal Pell predeceased her in 2007. Lili attended The Baldwin School in Bryn Mawr Pa and Smith College in Northampton Ma. She worked at J Walter Thompson and The Tonight Show with Steve Allen in NYC. Lili was a major contributor at Operation Hope, an agency for those in need of shelter and food. She was a Board Member for The Episcopal Church Foundation for many years. A member of the Fairfield Beach Club, Quogue Beach Club and the Quogue Field Club. She was loved by many and will be missed. A funeral service will be held on Saturday September 22nd, 11am at St. Timothy’s Episcopal Church, 4670 Congress Street, Fairfield, CT. A memorial service and internment will be held on Sept. 29th in Quogue, NY. Gifts in her memory may be made to Operation Hope, 636 Old Post Rd, Fairfield, CT, 06824. For information or to sign on online register please visit

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  1. Lili and her brother and sister were young children when I went to St. Andrew’s School in the class of 1944 and over the years I had the pleasure sf seeing Lili at various events at school. She was one of the last links to those early days of St. Andrew’s and she will be missed for that reason, but also as a charming and lovely lady

  2. Lili was the most remarkable, interesting and charming person. She was a gift to Operation Hope in so many ways and it was my good luck to count her as a friend. Her sense of fun, storytelling skill, compassion for others and clarity of purpose was as unique as she was. So blessed to have shared a little time with her. Love and sympathy to her family and friends.