In Loving Memory of Kathleen Susan Bender

April 20, 1945
Bridgeport, CT
January 12, 2020
Bridgeport, CT
Funeral Home

Spear-Miller Funeral Home

39 South Benson Road,
Fairfield CT US 06824


Tuesday, 4-8 p.m.

39 South Benson Road,
Fairfield CT 06824

January 14, 2020


Holy Family Church

Mass of Christian Burial

700 Old Stratfield Road,
CT 06825

Wednesday, January 15, 2020 10:00 a.m.


Lawncroft Cemetery

1740 Black Rock Turnpike,
CT 06825

January 15, 2020

Family Gathering


St. Jude's Children's Hospital

501 St. Jude Place,
TN 38105

Kathleen Susan Bender

Kathleen Susan Bender, age 74, of Bridgeport, beloved wife of 52 years of Joseph F. Bender, passed away peacefully Sunday, January 12, 2020. Born in Bridgeport, the daughter of the late Joseph and Catherine Blaner, she had been a lifelong city resident. A graduate of Warren Harding High School, Kathleen worked in the medical field while raising her family. She later graduated from Bridgeport Hospital School of Nursing and began a rewarding career as a pediatric nurse at Willows Pediatric Group in Westport. She was an avid teddy bear collector. Kathleen was a loving and devoted wife, mother, grandmother and aunt who delighted in time spent with her cherished grandchildren. Survivors in addition to her loving husband Joe include two beloved children, Melissa K. Sebestyen and her husband Stephen of Brookfield and Joseph C. Bender and his wife Beth of Monroe; six loving grandchildren, Clare, Peter, John Paul and Sam Sebestyen and Lily and Joe Bender; a sister, Dorothy Baker of Bridgeport, and many nieces and nephews. She was predeceased by her sister Barbara Blatchley. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated Wednesday, January 15, 2020 at 10:00 a.m. at Holy Family Church, 700 Old Stratfield Road, Fairfield. Interment will follow in Lawncroft Cemetery. Friends may call Tuesday from 4-8 p.m. in the Spear-Miller Funeral Home, 39 South Benson Road, Fairfield. In lieu of flowers, contributions in memory of Kathleen may be made to St. Jude’s Children’s Hospital, 501 St. Jude Place, Memphis, TN 38105. For information or to offer an online condolence please visit

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  1. Roger and I send our prayers and love to you Joe and to your loving family at this time of grief. Your wife was such a wonderful person with a loving heart. May the Lord welcome her with open arms, for she lived a kind, caring and beautiful life. 🙏🏻🌷🙏🏻

  2. Joe, Beth, Lily and Joe – I’m sorry to hear this news. Will keep you all in my thoughts. Sending love!
    -Kathy, Matt and Ellie

  3. So very sorry to hear of Kathy’s passing. I went all through school with her in Bridgeport and we spent many teenage hours listening to music together. Although we lost touch as adults, I will always remember the good times we had at Beardsley and then Harding H. S. My deepest sympathy to her family

  4. Uncle Joe, Missy and Joey,
    I am so sorry for the loss of Aunt Kathy. I can only imagine how difficult her passing has been for you. As for me, I will always cherish the funny times we had together. I will always remember Aunt Kathy as a Cheerful, Thoughtful and Generous person. I feel Blessed to have had her as my Aunt and my Godmother.
    Love Always,