In Loving Memory of John P. (Jack) Fray

July 11, 1930
New Haven, CT
July 03, 2019
Fairfield, CT
Funeral Home

Spear-Miller Funeral Home

39 South Benson Road,
Fairfield CT US 06824


Tuesday, 4-8 p.m.

39 South Benson Road,
CT 06824

July 09, 2019


St. Pius X Church

Mass of Christian Burial

834 Brookside Drive,
CT 06824

Wednesday, July 10, 2019 10:00 a.m.


Mountain Grove Cemetery

2675 North Avenue,
CT 06604

July 10, 2019

Family Gathering


Alzheimer's Association

200 Executive Blvd,
Suite 4B,
CT 06489

John Philip (Jack) Fray

John "Jack" Philip Fray Jr. died peacefully on July 3, 2019 at Bridgeport Hospital. He was born on July 11, 1930 in New Haven, CT and grew up in Fairfield. He attended Fairfield Prep and Fairfield University and then went on to earn his degree at Yale Law School in 1955. He practiced law in Fairfield for more than fifty years, a town that he loved and where he settled to raise his family. Always civic-minded, John recently received a citation for fifty years of service to the Fairfield Kiwanis Club and is remembered by many for his easy smiles as he sold peanuts at the Fairfield Memorial Day Parade for many decades. He was also a dedicated parishioner at St. Pius Church in Fairfield, where his deep love of music led him to sing in the church choir for more than forty years. Once Jack took a few singing lessons for a role he landed in "A Hundred and Ten in the Shade" in the 1970's, he became a triple threat: dancer, singer and actor. From there, he danced, sang, acted and directed in a variety of local community theater groups such as The Nutmeg Music Theater, The Comedy Club, the Downtown Cabaret Theater, the Patterson Follies, Stageworks, the Moonlighters and the Hoot Owls. A dedicated trumpeter since childhood, Jack helped put himself through college and law school after his father died by playing in polka bands in the greater Bridgeport area in the 1950's. Of all of his musical passions, however, tap dancing was always the greatest and well into his 80's, wherever an audience could be found, Jack would break into a little soft shoe in the spirit of his idols, Gene Kelly and Fred Astaire. After graduating Yale Law School, Jack was drafted into the Navy and was sent to Officers Candidates School where upon graduation, he became a J.A.G. Officer for the Pentagon in Washington, D.C. It was in Washington where Jack met the former Claire Fredricks. In addition to a myriad of song and dance collaborations both before and after their marriage, Jack and Claire raised three future music lovers in Fairfield. In addition to his wife Claire, Jack is survived by sons Scott (Dawn) of Norwood, MA, Chris (Chip) of Fairfield, CT and Brendon (Amy) of Monroe, CT, his three grandchildren, Connor, Devon and Erynn Fray, his cousin Jim Monde as well as many beloved nieces and nephews. He was predeceased by his sister Nancy (Fray) Fielding and his parents, John Philip and Adeline Moss Fray. Friends may call on Tuesday, July 9 from 4-8 p.m. at the Spear- Miller Funeral Home, 39 S Benson Rd. Fairfield, CT. Friends are invited to attend a Mass of Christian Burial which will take place at St. Pius Church, 834 Brookside Drive, Fairfield CT on July 10 at 10 a.m. Burial will follow at the Mountain Grove Cemetery (not far from the graves of P.T. Barnum and Tom Thumb!) The family requests that memorial contributions be made to The Alzheimer's Association, 200 Executive Blvd., Suite 4B, Southington, CT 06489. For information or to offer an online condolence please visit

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24 Guestbook Entries for John Philip (Jack) Fray

  1. John Philip (Jack) Fray aka Uncle John He was the most Loving person in the world to me .
    always taught me to be spiritual happy loving person there is. as i write this my heart hurts.
    and i have to be strong! i will miss my uncle John thank you for all the fun memories uncle john.
    I love you Peter James Monde

  2. Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.

    May care and love of those around your family provide comfort and peace to get you through the days ahead. Our most sincere condolences.

  3. So sorry we can’t be there to celebrate Jack Fray’s amazing life. Our love to all and know that we are thinking about you. George, Darka, Grace and Jamie Lacovara

  4. Dear Chris and Family,

    Our deepest condolences on the passing of your father. You and your family are in our hearts, minds and prayers.

  5. Please accept my deepest condolences for your loss. No words could fill the void that your father left behind.
    With all my love,

  6. Dearest Claire and Family: my deepest sympathy and prayers go to you and your family. I just loved Jack and knew him for years. He was a beloved choir member with us at St Pius X and always came with his little soft shoe dance and his jokes! I will miss him and please know he will be truly missed by all and in my prayers. My love to you Claire.

  7. Dear Chris and family, it is never easy, thinking of you and praying for your family during this difficult time, love, Catalina

  8. Dear Chris and family, thinking of you during this difficult time. Our prayers and thoughts are with you, Catalina

  9. Scott, Please accept our heart felt condolences and our prayers are there for you and your family.

  10. Dear Scott, we are very sorry for your loss. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

  11. Special prayers for the Claire and the entire family. May your many special memories celebrate the Jack’s fine life. May he be at peace.

  12. Having shared in many lunch time Kiwanis meetings over the years, Jack had the most “in tune pipes” when we sang AMERICA after the pledge. When he wasn’t there, you REALLY heard the difference. His reverence for our country’s theme song will never be forgotten.

  13. The Hamilton Family (James, Gretchen and Heather) all are sending our deepest condolences. My mom and dad remember fondly both of your parents, Brendon, from dances, theatre and singing! Sending you prayers of comfort. Heather

  14. So sorry to lose this longtime friend, but he is now cracking jokes and dancing with the Angels. God Bless You, Jack.

  15. Brendon and Family,

    My deepest condolences to you all. I pray all goes well for everyone moving forward, just know your Dad lived a beautiful life.

    Much love,


  16. To the family of Jack Fray, and a dear colleague, Brendon:

    Please accept my condolences for the loss of a cherished loved one. Regrettably, I did not have the good fortune of meeting Jack, but the obituary in his honor demonstrates that he was a remarkable individual — and without a doubt, a man whose absence will be keenly and sorrowfully felt, by all who knew him. He lives on, through you — and perhaps, there is no more powerful a testament to the goodness of a man, than the grace he bestowed on those whose lives he touched. Cheers, to a life well-lived, to beautiful memories, and a blessed legacy.

    ”I know for certain that we never lose the people we love, even to death. They continue to participate in every act, thought, and decision we make. Their love leaves an indelible imprint in our memories. We find comfort in knowing that our lives have been enriched by having shared their love.” – Leo Buscaglia

    ”For death is no more than a turning of us over from time to eternity.” – William Penn

    ”Say not in grief ‘he is no more’ but in thankfulness that he was.” – Hebrew Proverb

  17. Chris and family,

    I am so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a lovely man and raised some great kids for sure. My condolences to you and your family <3

  18. What a man – I feel like just reading his obituary I got a few glimpses of his many-faceted personality and his array of talents. With love to Chris and all his family. KV