In Loving Memory of Jean M. Mate

August 26, 1932
New York, NY
April 14, 2020
Fairfield, CT
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Spear-Miller Funeral Home

39 South Benson Road,
Fairfield CT US 06824


Private Graveside Services. A public celebration of Jean's life will be held at a later date.


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Jean M. Mate

Jean M. Mate, age 87, of Fairfield, beloved wife of John J. Mate, passed away peacefully at home surrounded by her loving family Tuesday, April 14, 2020. Born in New York City, the daughter of the late James and Bessie (Barocsi) Selling, she had been a Fairfield resident since 1956. A 1951 graduate of Bassick High School, Jean retired from the Fairfield Board of Education. Her greatest joy was spending time with her family especially her cherished six grandchildren. Survivors in addition to her loving husband John include three beloved sons, Gary T. Mate of Fairfield, Gerald P. Mate and his wife Carolyn of Trumbull and Glenn E. Mate, Sr. of Monroe; six adored grandchildren, Glenn E. Mate, Jr., Geoffrey A. Mate, Jacqueline Mate, Olivia Mate, Genna Mate and Christopher Mate; a brother, Stephen Selleng and his wife Margaret of Shelton; a niece and a nephew. Due to current health restrictions, a private graveside service will be held at Lawncroft Cemetery, Fairfield. A public celebration of Jean’s life will be held at a later date. For information or to offer an online condolence please visit

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3 Guestbook Entries for Jean M. Mate

  1. A few years ago, I came across a box full of hand written recipes that my mother had passed down to me. Most were handwritten, by ladies who had taken pride in learning the lost art of penmanship. I recognized many names, but most of the “guest” recipes that made the cut into my mom’s “favorites” were signed by Mrs. Jean Mate. I spent days scanning them and as I did the memories came flooding back… Angel Food Cake, Chocolate Eclairs, Coconut Custard Pie… the smells, the smiles, many afternoons spent running in and out of the kitchen watching my mom and Mrs. Mate create masterpieces you just can’t buy in the stores anymore. The crafts, the decorating, holiday ornaments… they put so much care, laughter and love into everything they did for their families. I’m heartbroken to hear of her passing because my childhood was so much better for having the privilege of knowing her. I’m so very sorry for every family member she leaves behind. You’re all in my thoughts and prayers.

  2. Rest In Peace Mrs Mate. You were such a great lady. We had so many laughs when growing up., and so many wonderful memories of you and your family. We love you and will miss you. Prayers for Gerry and the family at this difficult time.

  3. My sincere sympathy to Jean’s family. She was a wonderful friend. I will miss our conversations and laughs that we have shared over the years. Her family was her pride and joy. She was always happy to discuss the her children, grandchildren and loving husband.
    May Jean Rest In Peace and Bless her family during their time of grief.